Love Is The Answer

I was talking  over the phone to my friend the other day and we were exchanging views on the most favorite topic of girl talk--romantic relationships. This time, it was about a man's infidelity, you know, "third party" thing. And indecisiveness. And the inability to recognize real love.

This friend of mine is a real survivor in the game called love. Or shall I say a winner. She has been through more than I had and yet she manages to forgive easily and just the other day, laugh it all off. No tears. Just a seething desire to get even. Kidding

I am not new to this kind of situation myself, having been betrayed more than once. Uggghhh. Actually, this is the reason why my relationships get broken. Another woman. Man's ignorance. Break up. And then, bliss.

After every broken relationship, I would wonder: "What went wrong?"

You see, my mother was never betrayed by my father. As for my brothers betraying their gf/wife, I don't have concrete knowledge that they have. So after the "What went wrong question," comes, "What did I do to deserve this?"

I've always been loyal to my romantic commitments. I believe that life is about "the golden rule" but then I can't help but ask: "Why is this happening to me?"

And then one day, after bathing my super cutie dog, Magnolia, it dawned on me.  I shouldn't take this personally. Specifics can only make one miserable. I looked at the big picture and then I was satisfied by the realizations that have set in. There is a bigger world out there that needed to be analyzed or to be dwelled upon than the illusion of a broken heart. There is no such thing. A heart can never be broken. A love can never be lost. You just share it with somebody and when the relationship is over, then all the love comes back to you. The love you give is all yours. Nobody can take it away from you because it is your essence. Same thing with hate, but that is another topic and I don't want to digress.

Romantic relationships come and go. Men come and go. With every heartbreak comes lessons and then, self improvement then a step to a higher self. Yes, hurt can transform even the weakest to the most resilient.

The challenges that we face in this journey are just that, challenges, to overcome and not to despise. When you decide to give it all up, then that is the time that you cease to live.

Romantic relationships can make our journey through life worthwhile and I will always welcome it with open arms. No matter the hurt, remember that it cannot break your essence. It can only remind you that we indeed are all equal in indulging into this trivial stuff.  Because everybody falls in love and everybody gets hurt. (It is actually a good test of your decisiveness. Hahahahahaha.)

We all fall into the illusion that is romantic love. And most of the times, we fail to recognize the lessons that it is trying to teach. (Sigh) Love knows no bounds, it multiplies, it is never lost. People come and go. But love remains.

I met with a friend yesterday. What was supposed to be a short conversation turned out into an enlightening experience. We share the same wavelength and ideas about the "BIG PICTURE".

Of the same age bracket, we have recognized that life is not a rat race and had therefore set aside competitiveness in our current path. This didn't mean that we have become complacent and just contented ourselves in waiting for things to happen to us. Instead we have chosen to tread the path to progression. A path where we can clearly see the direction that we want to take without doubt or fear of failing.

This realization is best shared with somebody who is open and whole. Somebody who doesn't anchor her being with another to complete her. Being complete means mourning, accepting and embracing change. Recognizing your worth. Being confident in whatever gifts that you possess. And being generous to a fault.

You are what you think. Think happy and you are. Think positive and you radiate the energy. The universe is just waiting for us to decide and it will make way for us to make it happen.

Breakup, we have all been in that "dark hole" stage. And am sure, all of us dwelled into the most negative of feelings that we can imagine, some probably worst than death.

A few weeks ago, I was sad. Then I wake up one morning and decided to be happy. And I am since then.

There is no reason to resist change. It was. It is. It will be. It is the only companion that will remain loyal to us.

Change is what you think it is. It doesn't have the power over you. You have the power over it.

I've been through a lot of changes lately. Some people gone. Some people going. Some people came back. People coming and going, I lost track.

But then the ME continues to survive. Continues to hope. Continues to learn. Continues to share. Strives to be an inspiration in my own little ways.

I am evolving and it will continue until I have become the person that I am meant to be.

Life is a journey with more humps and bumps and potholes than you can imagine. But then, it is beautiful too because it continuously presents us with sweet surprises.